The difference between a reaction and a response is a breath. When you recognize that your buttons are being pushed, you’re getting fired up, or feeling attacked you have an opportunity to stop, take a breath, and choose whether or not you want to respond and if it’s your stuff or just the other person throwing theirs at you. Don’t judge yourself if you bite on the hook but instead learn to recognize the patterns and in time you will become less reactive. Slow inhale, pause, slow exhale;  three times.